I lost my wife a month ago
After she died, I did eventually share the fact online, but then I started thinking:
I wonder when the boundaries of our digital personas and our “real life” person disappears #in
— Robert Fransgaard (@fransgaard) June 9, 2012
Do we only share the good aspects of our lives online?
I’ve share online that my wife has passed away (read here how and why). In many ways I didn’t have a choice as both her and I have prominent digital profiles and quite unique names (I’m the only Robert Fransgaard in the world). And I’m fine with it. It’s no secret and it saves people from wondering whether or not they can talk to me about it.
But since then I have spoken to quite a few Twitter friends who have gone through similar personal issues.
And I realised how isolated people can feel in social media as you always try to project the good aspects of your life… possibly at the expense of your real life.
But does that mean you isolate yourself just when you really need support?
Are we creating an online world full of flawless people by not admitting any short comings?
Does social media force you into a position where you are all alone with your problems fearing that if you share them with anybody your problems suddenly make their way online and attack the polished surface of your online profile? Maybe even affecting your career and recruitability?